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Top 10 Marital Mistakes
By Sheri & Bob Stritof We have noticed on the Marriage Forum that there is a pattern to the marital problems and issues that people share. Here is our list of the top ten things that you require to try and avoid in your own marriage.
• Lack of Respect. Do not badmouth your other half to your friends or associates. Spouses need to be thanked. They want to know they are appreciated.
• Not Listening to Your Spouse. This includes allowing your mind to wander, paying more attention to the computer or TV set, ignoring body language, and interrupting.
• Lack of Sexual Intimacy. This is a death knell for a marriage. Look for medical counsel and therapeutic counseling if needed. Do not leave your partner wondering why you are not paying attention to sex.
• Always Having to Be Right. This includes lecturing your mate, or having to have the last word. A small number of people can love a know-it-all forever. Admit once in awhile that you made a mistake or that you do not have all the answers.
• Not Walking the Talk. Actions do speak louder than words. When you say you will do something, do it. When you say you will not do something, follow through.
• Hurtful Teasing. If your partner says the teasing is hurtful, considers it a put down, or thinks that it is unsuitable, then stop it. Claiming that your other half does not have a sense of humor or is too sensitive is being inconsiderate and unkind.
• Dishonesty. Having lies and secrets like online dating in your relationship can make distance and lack of trust among the two of you.
• Being Annoying. This includes continuing to have gross personal hygiene habits, or always being late, or nitpicking everything your spouse does, etc. It is when you know you are annoying and you continue to annoy.
• Being Selfish or Greedy. This is when you waste money on yourself, but makes a big deal if your spouse spends a dime.
• Having Temper Tantrums. Every couple wants to be able to handle conflict in a constructive way. Having an angry explosion so that you can win an argument will make you the loser in the finish.
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